Pride Guide for Neuro-Divergent Introverts!
When you want to make friends but you hate crowds
Even social butterflies can full-on wilt in the midst of of a swirling, glittery, rainbow-coloured crowd. Especially if you are more hermit crab than party animal.
But you belong and it’s totally possible to forge meaningful relationships - even if the crowds make you want to head for the nearest couch to curl up with a good book.
I really don’t love crowds, but there are some strategies that can help you survive and even enjoy the weekend. It can seem like people with ADHD are extrovert, but a surprising number of us are actually very shy underneath it all. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Top Tips :)
You don’t need to work the whole crowd. Just stick with your one or two people who you are comfortable with.
Stay open to small opportunities for real moments amidst the big energies. Have fewer conversations and don’t try to meet everyone!
Find quiet zones, there is a low sensory tent at Victoria Pride. Check out the edges and margins of a gathering, you know, the equivalent of the kitchen at a party. These places are naturally better for talking and having any kind of conversation anyway.
Lead with curiosity if you want to strike up a conversation. It takes wild courage to approach someone you don’t know well or at all. It’s not desperate or weak. I heard someone at Pride in the Word say - NO means Next Opportunity. Look for approachable faces, small clusters and find your vibe.
Heck, wear your vibe to reflect who you are. That way your people can spot you.
Walk or sit side-by-side rather than face-to-face if that feels easier.
Take time out. Text a friend. People watch. It’s OK to feel overwhelmed, take a breather.
You don’t have to be the loudest, flashiest gay in the village. Just be present, real and curious. It only takes one connection to call it a win. Allow your true people to find you.
You’ve got this. Pride is about celebrating diversity.
You are fine, exactly as you are.
And as Oscar Wilde says:
Be yourself, everyone else is taken.
Wishing you magical encounters, new friends and maybe even a new crush!
Happy Pride.
Love Kay