Rejection Sensitivity - Running into a wall of indifference

When you reach out for warmth and connection

For many people with ADHD, rejection is super hard, like being punched in the gut. Let’s just put that on the table - without masking or bypassing how gut-wrenchingly raw and horrible it feels. And also, don’t make yourself wrong if you’ve found yourself on this path and it had you spinning. You’re not alone.

Many of us have history with emotionally unavailable people with whom we’ve desperately tried to find reciprocity with. It’s crazy-making. To feel safe and evolve, you need mutual support in a relationship, not emotional scarcity or a sense you have to hustle or earn love. Anyone else remember trying to buy love with candy in the school playground?

The ache in your stomach is a call to return to yourSelf. Every time you reach for someone who can’t or won’t meet you, your heart is telling you loud and clear that this is what real connection does NOT feel like. This is evidence that you’re growing beyond the crumbs.

You don’t have to give more than you get. You can transform and evolve out of patterns that leave you feeling undervalued. Every NO clears a space in your heart for a sacred YES. Even if it feels brutal at the time.

That bone-tiredness of loving hard, caring so much and getting silence in return? It’s toxic and it hurts. If you’ve got RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, it hurts even more.)

And it’s actually grief. Let it flow through you and let it alchemize into medicine. Let yourself feel the grief. Breathe through it. Let the transformation begin.

You are not too much. You are just right for the right person or people.

Stay open and hold out for love that feels like home, not hard work. There’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to receive the kind of love that you want to give. You’re not here to be a safe harbor for people who won’t drop an anchor. Say NO to draining conversations and toxic people.

You deserve to be chosen, cherished and loved for who you are. Let the ache be a compass for new people, new spaces and new tenderness.

Be radically kind to yourself today, craft a fortress out of cozy socks, warm tea and a sweet, sweet read. You get to choose who can enter.

And you can choose to only ever lower the drawbridge for the people who deserve your love. You got this.