Self-Trust and ADHD- Made not Born

It's a skill you can develop!

People with ADHD often struggle with decision-making. This is partly because many of us have lost trust in our decision-making ability. After all, if you’re like me, you’ve made some terrible ones.

When vata is high, so are impulsivity and compulsivity. Decisions are made without thought or heart. They are a reaction made from a place of desire, attachment or fear rather than mindfulness, courage or love.

Every bad decision erodes self-trust.

On the other hand… every good decision builds it. And this is the point of power.

Life is a gong show without self-trust because there is nothing to ground you, and you’ll be blown about by windy old vata.

Why is cultivating self-trust so important?

Well, self-trust means having the confidence to make good decisions about your life. And this is essential because you are the expert of you.

You are the only one with intimate insights and relationships with every part of who you are and where you’ve been. This insider information qualifies you as the expert to make decisions about you.

However, you must stop, pause and check in with yourself before making decisions. This is also known as developing your intuition. Trusting your intuition and inner wisdom is key to managing ADHD successfully.

Making healthy choices means tuning in to your inner teacher who can guide you to people, books, workshops or other learning opportunities you need if you are missing some information or advice. Your inner teacher can also guide you to say yes or no to anything you consume or involve yourself with.

If you defer to others without checking in with yourself, you’ll lose agency over your wisdom and power, eroding your ability to trust yourself.

You must become your own authority when choosing how to manage your life. Connect to the highest aspects of yourself and tune into the wisdom within. Pay attention to the small inner voice to determine what is best for you.

I believe it’s a lack of self-trust that derails people with ADHD. It leads to bad decisions, self-disgust and addictions.

Bad habits are formed one bad decision at a time. Eventually, they become automatic, and then we start eroding self-trust on auto-pilot.

Fortunately, the same is true of building self-trust. This happens through choosing practices like checking in with yourself, listening to the inner teacher and developing intuition.

Have the courage to listen to yourself. It is not the ra-ra-ra self that reacts before thinking, but the sage part of yourself waiting to be heard. When you do, you’ll connect to your own path to wisdom, healing and happiness.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear your thoughts!